I saw a picture of you today.
We were sitting outside your therapists office.
I wish the me taking the picture knew how bad it really was.
I thought you were mostly fine.
Instead you were just pretending.
I remember hearing that I had missed you.
You came to the weekly meeting.
It just happened to be the one I missed.
You would never return.
The selfish side of me wishes you had told me you were back.
The wishful side thinks I could have stopped it.
The truthful side knows you didn’t seek anyone out for a reason.
You said good bye to those who crossed your path, not everyone who mattered.
I wish I could call you.
I’d tell you I made it to law school.
I’d tell you I have no idea how to date.
I’d tell you I love you.
I used to be uncomfortable with those words.
I didn’t say them to anyone, even long-time friends.
I’ve overcome that now.
I love you, I miss you.
Your mom reaches out to me periodically.
I think she thinks I was the last person to have a real connection.
Or maybe that my success reflects what yours would have been.
I still don’t know how to talk to her.
I think it’s my fault.
I know it’s not.
I want to blame someone.
I know there is no one to blame.
Your death was the last straw.
I can’t talk to God anymore.
He let you suffer, he placed me into your path,
And I couldn’t stop it.
It’s not your fault though,
He and I have always been on shaky ground.
With so much bad,
It’s hard to see Him.
He might be there,
But if he is,
He’s ambivalent,
He lets us chose our paths.
I hope wherever you are,
You’re better,
I hope the pain stopped,
I hope you found peace.
I miss you,
I love you,
I remember you.
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It’s been two years since my best friend committed suicide. I had started this blog with her. I stopped posting somewhere in the past year. Between missing her and the stress of law school, it just slipped through the cracks. Some person randomly followed me a week ago. I remembered how much I like posting. And then I saw a picture of her. Just a girl playing a silly game in a therapists office. And it all came rushing back. The photo kept reappearing throughout the day. I almost sent a message to her mom, but it sounded like I wanted her to make me feel better. I’ve never wanted that from her, I’ve wanted to make her feel better even if I can’t fix it. So I couldn’t send it. Then I remembered posting. So here’s my poem. I don’t think it really is one until about halfway through, but I’m rusty. All this legal writing has me screwed up. Hopefully this is the start of something old. 🙂
P.S. I’m totally writing this while sitting in my car outside my apartment complex. I’m such a weirdo.